Browse Our Services
Counselling for couples, children, young people, adults and families
All relationships begin with the intention of lasting a long time. Unfortunately, this is not always the case and for various reasons, we give up hope and relationships breakdown. Couples are often under strain due to life's pressures e.g. financial, children, work etc. Patterns of behaviour can determine your intimate relationship and your future goals, joint interests and commitment all play a part in the happiness of a relationship. Having therapy doesn't necessarily mean patching up a broken relationship as we can't always fix what is broken.
Once we have explored why you are here, we work collaboratively to find ways to improve and build your relationship by thinking about necessary changes, patterns of behaviour and intimacy. Alternatively, one or both of you may be contemplating separation and having these discussions is too difficult on your own. I will support you through this process and help you to find the easiest and least painful route possible.
- Relationship breakdown
- Other significant life events
CHILDREN & YOUNG PEOPLE & ADOLESCENTS
- Self Esteem
- Family Conflicts
- Exam Pressure
My work is supported by my belief that when a safe space is provided, children can feel heard and valued and have an individual focus. It takes time for the trust to build and the initial sessions are focused on building self esteem and confidence. I use a creative combination of techniques, themes and approaches which often can be more evaluative than adult therapy. The young person can explore their feelings, difficulties and concerns or celebrate the positive aspects of their life, their achievements and conquests. Using interventions such as games, enactment, creative play and talking can all help a young child to engage, which can be useful in opening up new and sometimes difficult conversations . The creative therapeutic space enables freedom of speech and openness (something a lot of children have never experienced) – leading to raised confidence which in turn can lead to change.
Sometimes for the child it is simply about “being heard” and acknowledged or understanding how to deal with life’s difficulties/challenges. Helping them to put strategies into place, for instance when venting anger, can help them think about doing things differently. Often it is about understanding that some things cannot be changed and part of what we have to learn is the acceptance of that through talking about sadness and loss.
As adolescents there are many changes to deal with, and often all at once. Many physical and psychological changes take place typically between 13 and 19 years old and this can sometimes feel scary. It is a time of tough choices pressures and struggle, as well as one of excitement, independence and discovery. This combination of changing feeling can sometimes bring about difficult decisions which can cause stress and anxiety which may lead to identity issues, friendship problems and peer group pressure. You may also feel confused about you sexuality, your body image or your romantic relationships. Talking about these issues can be enormous relief but choosing who to tell can be tricky as these are all sensitive discussions. As a trained therapist, I am used to having these discussions and have a sense of what is usual for you to feel at this stage in your life. I will not judge or criticize but listen and help you to manage your transition into adulthood.
Each one of us is unique and we all have a role to play in this diverse world. I want to help you to learn this; help you embrace your individuality and grow in confidence so you can never let anyone bring you down and you can reach your full potential.
• What other people think of me is none of my ‘business’ – only theirs.
• Other people’s opinions are always interesting as long as they never interfere with what I decide to do.
• The only important decisions and choices in my life are entirely my own, yours belong to you.
Divorce and separation can trigger other losses and can be a difficult experience to go through on your own. Not only are you having to cope with the legal and financial side of divorce, you are also having to manage the different emotions that the ending of a relationship brings. This can be overwhelming and you may feel you are drowning in anger, despair, sorrow and lack of hope for the future.
Being able to share experiences can help you to feel less isolated and by processing the pain that divorce can bring may help you to feel less stuck as well as give you renewed hope for the future.